Most couples would respond that perfect intercourse would involve orgasms for both the man and the woman. However, only about 35% of women climax with the stimulation of penile thrusting. Sher Hite, in her classic book "The Hite Report" has stated that intercourse is the least effective way of bringing a woman to orgasm! There is a way, however, to increase the likelihood of a woman reaching orgasm during the act of coitus (intercourse).
The following is the step-by-step advice of Edward W. Eichel, M.A., a psychotherapist in private practice who first identified and described the CAT technique.
The CAT Position or Coital Alignment Technique
The Coital Alignment Technique was described in 1993 by Edward W. Eichel, M.A., a psychotherapist and coauthor of "The Perfect Fit." The following is the step-by-step advice of Ed Eichel, explained in much greater detail in his book.
1: Assume the missionary position. After a sufficient period of loving foreplay to build high arousal, the man enters in the male superior position. He will be lying on top of his partner, resting his weight on his elbows. The woman's knees should be slightly bent and raised, and definitely not wrapped around the man's hips. After making penetration, the man should not begin immediate thrusting.
2: Repositioning of the male. Typically in the missionary position the man is low between his partner's thighs. His penetration is directly into her vagina, missing her sensitive clitoris. In the coital alignment technique, however, the man slides his entire body forward so that he is riding higher on the woman and his pelvis is slightly above hers. The base of his penis should also be pushing against her mons veneris, the bony mound where her pubic hair grows. "The base of the penis is an erogenous zone in its own right," says Eichel; "constant pressure on it will provide a wonderful prostatic sensation, a soft melting feeling." In this position, the shaft of the man's penis is pressing against his partner's clitoris.
3: Male relaxation. The man takes his weight off his elbows and lowers his chest onto his partner's torso. He might initially feel heavy to her, but most women adjust. (If the man is much heavier than his partner, the technique might work better with him on the bottom.) If the man's head and shoulders veer to either his partner's left or her right, she will be spared from having to bear his full weight. The man should be certain to keep all weight off his elbows and release any tension he might be holding in his shoulders and neck. Such tension will impair the pelvic mobility that he's going to need. Her legs should wrap around his thighs, her ankles resting on your calves. Her knees need to be as low as possible to maintain the pelvic mobility that she is about to need.
4: The woman leads. The woman should tip her pelvis gently (a short rolling thrust), but firmly enough so she and her partner feel definite clitoral contact. The man should move upward only slightly, just as a response to her movement, being sure not to move further or faster than he's being pushed. The woman should control the coital rhythm.
5: The man responds. Now it is the man's turn to thrust, apply only enough force to tip down her pelvis very slightly. She should exert a moderate resistance, allowing her pelvis to move backward only until the small of her back is flat on the bed. This is not a long massive male thrust. He should remain firmly pressed against her clitoris, but the movement is subtle.
6: Swing low. Think of those swings in which a couple sits facing each other. As one swings up, the other swings down, and then the reverse. That's what should happen now: a gentle back and forth, back and forth (up and down). The man should remain aware of and direct his movement around the pleasure he feels at the base of his penis. As the man pushes down, he should feel a warm, sensuous feeling radiating from that point. The woman should stay aware of and focus on directing her swing so that she feels pleasurable pressure on her clitoris.
7: Let it be. Here's an important part of the technique, but Eichel warns that for many men it might be difficult. The man should not push or rush for his orgasm. As he feels himself approaching climax, he should focus and maintain his rhythm. "Let it come to you rather than chasing it," writes Eichel.
8: The results. With pubic bones tight and with the synchronized rocking motion, the woman responds to the direct clitoral stimulation and moves steadily toward her orgasm. The man, with only minimal thrusting, builds more slowly. Often with the CAT the woman reaches orgasm first and in response to her signal, the man begins to thrust more rapidly and reaches his climax as his partner wallows in the warmth of her afterglow.Buy it at amazon.com... The Perfect Fit, Edward Eichel & Philip Nobile, 1993.
Sexologist Dr. Robert Birch adds that the technique is equally effective when the woman is on top. She should lie flat on her partner's body and, with his penis contained, slide down. She should feel some resistance from his erection as she bends it upward. The shaft of his penis will then be pressing against her clitoris, and their short powerful rocking movement will provide her with clitoral stimulation, while at the same time allowing the man to delay his ejaculation.
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A Guide to Female Orgasms During Intercourse
Robert W. Birch, Ph.D.ACS Certified Sexologist
Retired Marital & Sex TherapistThe majority of women are unable to reach orgasm during intercourse, simultaneous or otherwise. This is not because it is impossible, but generally is the result of using ineffective positions. Based on years of study and clinical practice, Dr. Birch has put together an easy to understand illustrated guide to the best positions for a woman to receive clitoral stimulation and achieve orgasm.
This information is available on CD as a .pdf document that can be opened to read on a computer monitor screen or printed out.
This CD contains the 7 page article with 11 illustrations on positions of intercourse that will work best in bring a woman to orgasm. The positions also increase the possibility that a couple can learn to experience simultaneous orgasms during intercourse.
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After reading the second article, titled THREE IN YOUR BED, Take your mechanical friend to bed. Play back and forth with it during your foreplay, and do not rush into intercourse. When it is time, pick the position that works best for the three of you and have fun!
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Positions of intercourse are discussed in "Sensual Pathways to Pleasure: A Woman's Guide to Orgasm" and in "Male Sexual Endurance: A Man's Book About Ejaculatory Control."
Positons for performing oral sex on a woman are discussed and illustrated in "Oral Caress: A Loving Guide to Exciting a Woman" and in "Cunnilingus: Warming her Heart and Tickling her Pink."
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