Orgasm, Orgasm, Whose Got the Orgasm?
Surveys and clinical experience confirm that between 10 and 15 percent of all American women have never experienced orgasm and only around 30 to 35 percent of orgasmic women will orgasm during intercourse. Failure to orgasm at all or difficulty reaching orgasm during intercourse has stirred much concern among women and among their partners, causing one, the other, or both to feel inept or dysfunctional.
An orgasm, of course, is the much sought-after conclusion to a period of high sexual arousal. During her excitement, a womanís body packs blood into her vulva (clitoris, labia and tissue surrounding her vaginal opening). Physical tension builds (hypertonicity), as does the subjective experience of sexual arousal. If an orgasm occurs, the blood is released from the genital tissue and the woman senses a warm wave of intense pleasure in association with each strong contraction of her pelvic floor muscles. After an orgasm (or several orgasms if the woman is multiply-orgasmic) both mind and body relax, as the woman bathes in her quiet post-orgasmic after-glow.
Many reasons for the failure of a woman to orgasm have been proposed: anger, ignorance, guilt, inhibition, and fear of losing control and letting go, to mention only a few. There are those who have pointed to hormones, to sexual abuse, or to clumsy men. There is confusion about vaginal verses clitoral orgasms, questions concerning G Spot stimulation and curiosity about the pelvic floor (Kegel) exercises. In a recent article in a health food journal, a woman who earned her Ph.D. in Communications has suggested that the reason women are not orgasmic is because of low desire, and then goes on to push what she calls the "sex vitamins and minerals." It is clear that people who claim expertise in vitamins should not write about sex, and those who specialize in sexuality should not write about vitamins! (And perhaps women who study communication should stick to writing about communicating.)
The most reliable resources are, of course, material written by professionals who have studied human sexuality. Two of the best books on the subject of female orgasm are those written by sexologists Lonnie Barbach, (FOR YOURSELF: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality, 1995) and by Julia Heiman, & Joseph LoPiccolo (BECOMING ORGASMIC: A Sexual Growth Program for Women, 1988.) The BECOMING ORGASMIC book can be found in our book list, and has a page of its own with a more detailed description.
We also invite you to go to our list of videos and DVDs, and locate the DVD titled Becoming Orgasmic. The approach in this DVD has been a favorite of sex therapists for years.
This is a revision in which Sexologist Dr. Robert Birch and Sex Therapist Cynthia Ruberg eliminated some of the unnecessary and repetative information and added a bit more clarity and information. It is available now as an eBook in .pdf file and will come to you as an e-mail attachment that you can download and read on your computer or print out.
A REVISION OF PATHWAYS TO PLEASURE AS AN eBOOK
SENSUAL PATHWAYS TO PLEASURE:
A Woman's Journey to Orgasm
Sensual Pathways to Pleasure will print out to approximately 80 full pages, and contains all the essential information as was found in the original book. The main advantage is the lower price. If you are a woman still wondering about orgasms, and if you are looking for a low-cost informational and instructional self-help manual, this is a must. Your price is only $5.50 and, of course, there is no postage!
For personal use, academic teaching or research, or clinical practice, Dr. Robert Birch (Retired Sex Therapist & Sex Educator) offers the nine-page questionnaire he developed for use in his professional practice. This document is available as an email attachment in .pdf format. For educational or clinical purposes, permission is granted for unlimited reproduction. For persoal use, a woman might gain some insight as she completes this inquiry. This questionnaire can be purchase for only $1.50.
QUESTIONNAIRE FOR FEMALE ORGASMIC CONCERNS
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For only $5.00 you can have Dr. Birch react to your written answers to the questionnaire's items. Comments and suggestions will be offered. Email Dr. Birch for instructions on how to use this service. Remember, an interpretion and reaction to your responses is not the equivalent of a clinical assessment in a face-to-face evaluation by a qualified sex therapist. The suggestions offered are not equivalent to advice based on an indepth clinical interviews and diagnosis. However, the comments and suggestions should prove interesting and helpful.
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A Guide to Female Orgasm During Intercourse
Robert W. Birch, Ph.D.ACS Certified Sexologist
Retired Marital & Sex TherapistThe majority of women are unable to reach orgasm during intercourse. This is not because it is impossible, but generally is the result of using ineffective positions. Based on years of study and clinical practice, Dr. Birch has put together an easy to understand illustrated guide to the best positions for a woman to receive clitoral stimulation and achieve orgasm.
This information is available on CD as a .pdf document that can be opened to read on a computer monitor screen or printed out.
This CD contains the 7 page article with 11 illustrations on positions of intercourse that will work best in bring a woman to orgasm. The positions also increase the possibility that a couple can learn to experience simultaneous orgasms during intercourse.
In addition, the illustrated 7 page article on using vibrators during intercourse is included. The color illustrations on this disc are crisp. Illustrated mention is also made of using a vibrator on a man.
This CD is priced at $6.00 and this includes Priority Mailpostage and handling.
This .pdf file is also available as an e-Article. Order for only $2.50 (and no postage) and the file will be sent as an e-mail attachment. A second illustrated article is included, this once showing the positions in which a vibrator can be use during intercourse. Download these two articles onto your computer to read or to print.
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